Napagmunihan sa Valentines: “Masaya ka kung mabait ka sa iba”

Hindi ito cheezzzy entry, makeso na ang araw na ito kumbaga kaya di na ako dadagdag. Naisip ko lang yung impression na you are not happy if you are not on a date sa valentines. Pang commercial di ba? Knowing na ang dami kong nakikita sa kalye na wala namang pakialam kung valentines o hindi – baka naman bitter lang pero deadma hehehe. Yung mga taong tipong sobrang bitter, na kapag nakakakita ng lobong heart-shaped gustong agawin sa may hawak at sasabihing “Happy Valentines! Isaksak mo ‘tong lobo sa dibdib mo!” Sobrang bitter naman nun.

On the other hand may mga tao namang sobrang attached sa mga okasyon. Halimbawa kapag hindi nabababati sa birthday magpapakamatay. Kapag hindi nabigyan ng regalo sa Christmas magpapakamatay. Kapag nakalimutang batiin ang nanay sa Mother’s Day magpapakamatay, ganun din sa Father’s Day. Kapag nalimutan magpatay ng ilaw sa Earth day magpapakamatay din. E kung dagdagan kaya natin ng Grandfather’s and Grandmother’s day, brothers and sister’s day, lahat na lang lagyan natin ng okasyon – e ‘di aligaga ka ngayon? OA di ba? Anyway hindi tungkol dyan ang nasa isip ko. It’s about happiness.

Since Valentines is about happiness pagmunihan natin. We usually define happiness in terms of contentment. Siguro narinig n’yo na or nabasa yung salitang gaudium. Like the encyclical Gaudium et Spes, literally “Joy and Hope.” Gaudium is a Latin noun meaning joy. We understand this joy as an inner feeling rather than an outward expression. Naisip ko ito kasi we have put premium sa outward expressions pagdating sa happiness. Siguro in a rough way sabihin na nating I’ve seen this (outward expressions) sa mga kabataan lalo na on their fb or instagram pages. Kasi I’d never thought that food would figure out as one of the most photographed items sa buhay natin. Lumaki ako siguro sa time na kapag picture ang pag-uusapan mukha ng tao, or tao ang pipicturan at sceneries. Anyway, kahit naman ka-age ko nagpipicture na din ng food sa plato nila. So, in short, pictures of this sort generally make a statement saying “This makes me happy.” So happiness is often construed in terms of satisfaction. Nothing wrong with this. But satisfaction, whether gustatory or otherwise, when it becomes the sole basis for happiness I think is misleading. You see this in people who are so rich and yet so rude. One time I was in a milk tea house and a beautiful girl fresh from her Pajero ordered a tea and the attendant, perhaps did not hear her very well, gave the wrong kind of drink. And she fumed, “Sabi ko yung inorder ko kahapon, alam ko narinig mo ako, I’ve been coming here for some time ordering the same tea!” She went on for like, some two minutes. Sa babae ang dami na nang nasabi nun di ba? Hehehe peace. So ganun kahaba. Ang kakaiba pa dun nung lumabas na ng store parang wala lang. Nanigaw lang siya, ganun lang. No big deal. Mali yung tindera eh, so I’m justified for being so braaaattty.

Consider these maganda siya, mayaman, at mukhang matalino. Hindi naman siya bad hair day para magtaray kasi she simply breezed out of the store, like any normal person. Nagalit siya because she was not satisfied. This is the problem with equating happiness with satisfaction. The nature of satisfying a “need” or “want” pertains to momentary necessities; once fulfilled its gone. Another “need” arises and then you start addressing that gnawing “need” again. It goes on.

Gaudium is not like that. It is an inner joy that is stable. I will not define this so much more than asking you to recall a person or persons you have met who are simply contented with their lives and with themselves. They are in a state of contentment that even if their “needs” weren’t satisfied or people come short of their expectations they don’t burst in anger. The difference between mere satisfaction and contentment is stability. People who are in a state of gaudium are not prone to fits of anger and despair.

Kaya nga nasagi sa isip ko, yung taong tunay na masaya, mabait sa kapwa.

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